While many studies make sleep seem like a solitary act, most people share their bed with a partner. Bedroom drama can be a huge issue for sleep quality as well as become a issue in your relationship. Here’s what the experts recommend to help you and your partner embrace sleep as a couple, according to Everyday Health:
- Evaluate your sleep needs: You partner may have a different sleeping style and compromising is a big deal. Investing in a mattress that suits both of you may solve many of those problems regarding temperature, comfort, and space. Try shopping for a mattress that allows you both to adjust the firmness, or you may need to upgrade to a larger mattress size if your partner is a bad sleeper. Also getting a mattress pad that keeps you cool can solve temperature disputes.
- Have a sense of humor: Embrace each other’s differences as some nights your partner may snore or say weird things during sleep. It’s important to keep things light hearted so that you don’t associate your bedroom with conflict, which may cause insomnia or poor sleep quality.
- Separate bedrooms aren’t uncommon: It’s definitely okay if there is no comprise for certain differences. Wearing an eye mask to block light or ear plugs to block out sound just may not be comfortable. Separate sleep environments may be something to consider if you both have different schedules or sleep habits that disturb one another. You can both wind down together before going into your bedrooms and not miss a beat. Research has shown that sleeping apart doesn’t hurt relationships, but sleep differences can cause relationship problems over time.
It’s important to remember that you both deserve quality sleep to maximize your individual potential and enhance your relationship as a couple. Poor sleep makes you quick to anger and less compassionate toward your partner. Work together to truly reap the benefits of 7-9 hours of deep, refreshing sleep each night!
Just remember that you both deserve the benefits that sleep provides, so be flexible and respectful about each other’s needs. In addition, be on the lookout for snoring problems and encourage your partner to speak with a licensed physician if you suspect they have sleep apnea or aren’t sleeping well.